The products look great, but in this climate, I'd be scared to wear it in public/put my son in one of these. It's a pity that we have to come to this :(.
I hear you. And, it's sad. I do not understand how & why it's become okay to wear clothes/fly flags that say "F*** [name of political candidate], but maybe not safe for a boy to wear a shirt saying "Boys Are Great." (If it said "Boys are great. Girls are not", that I'd understand as offensive)
same! I hate even using the phrase "boymom" anymore because it went from being a convenient catchall to something much more culturally charged. Now I have to use the clunkier phrase "moms of boys" so it doesn't sound like I'm talking about people who want to marry their sons.
I refuse to give up "boymom." I was using it before they were! (I also really love the "boymom" necklace I bought myself many yrs ago & am wearing it today)
I have a secret goal to write a book/essay about how moms of boy-identifying-kids-only need each other as resources/sources of reassurance but it just feels too fraught right now which sucks. But you just need those friends who breathe the same air sometimes.
The fact that it feels fraught now is why it's *needed now. (And also: I know you have a full life and career and need to think about how anything you write or publish affects that too. None of this is easy)
I have a friend (mom to 1 son) who always says "Boys are fun!" when someone has a boy. I can never quite tell if she 100% means it sincerely or if there is a twinge of sarcasm in there.
The products look great, but in this climate, I'd be scared to wear it in public/put my son in one of these. It's a pity that we have to come to this :(.
I hear you. And, it's sad. I do not understand how & why it's become okay to wear clothes/fly flags that say "F*** [name of political candidate], but maybe not safe for a boy to wear a shirt saying "Boys Are Great." (If it said "Boys are great. Girls are not", that I'd understand as offensive)
same! I hate even using the phrase "boymom" anymore because it went from being a convenient catchall to something much more culturally charged. Now I have to use the clunkier phrase "moms of boys" so it doesn't sound like I'm talking about people who want to marry their sons.
I refuse to give up "boymom." I was using it before they were! (I also really love the "boymom" necklace I bought myself many yrs ago & am wearing it today)
I have a secret goal to write a book/essay about how moms of boy-identifying-kids-only need each other as resources/sources of reassurance but it just feels too fraught right now which sucks. But you just need those friends who breathe the same air sometimes.
The fact that it feels fraught now is why it's *needed now. (And also: I know you have a full life and career and need to think about how anything you write or publish affects that too. None of this is easy)
I have a friend (mom to 1 son) who always says "Boys are fun!" when someone has a boy. I can never quite tell if she 100% means it sincerely or if there is a twinge of sarcasm in there.