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Caren Chesler's avatar

I loved this one. Your writing and lessons, in general, are calming to me. They always seem to say, "That thing you thought you were doing wrong? You're not. You're doing just fine." And we do have a bit of that summer thing going on here -- though when Eddie leaves the house, he's gone all day, and i don't know what the heck he's doing, except for blanket statements like, 'The Beach." or "Charlie's House." (he's going into 9th grade now). But he has summer school in the mornings -- at least this week -- and a job on Saturdays. So I don't mind him having fund, however he wants to, within reason, in the time in between his obligations.

Keep the lessons coming. I love them.

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Jennifer L.W. Fink's avatar

I so appreciate your feedback, Caren. That's exactly the vibe I'm going for. And Eddie (& you) sounds like you're doing great!

FWIW -- I was part of a podcast recording this am, talking about boys & one of the things another participant talked about was how boys especially need time & space to simply hang out & be. (She said she's become the woman on her local neighborhood chat who chimes in with "So?" every time someone reports a group of boys hanging out on the corner or whatever).

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Katharine Strange's avatar

This is making me feel much better about my 10yo's plans to "just chill" this summer. Now all I need is to learn how to ignore the bickering 😬

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Jennifer L.W. Fink's avatar

I wrote about that too! (Why? B/c I also struggled w it!) https://buildingboys.net/why-you-need-to-stop-focusing-on-your-boys-bickering/

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Katharine Strange's avatar

YASSSSSSS, thank you!

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